“In quarreling, the truth is often lost.” Originally written in Latin a couple of millennia ago, this adage is as true today as it was when it was first thought up. I’ve recognized the truth of this idea, particularly in observing arguments and conflicts in marriages. Most fights between spouses start over fairly minor issues, but really get rolling when perceptions of the other’s attitudes, thoughts, or actions throw gas on the tiny spark that is the initial issue. A tone of voice or word choice is perceived as disrespectful or unloving and the argument escalates. This is not to say that ther...